Most people who know me would say that I’m an extrovert, but I don’t know that I’ve figured out if I’m an introvert or extrovert. From my understanding you can figure it out based on what energizes you. For me it’s both. I love time to myself or just my wife and I, but I also really enjoy spending time with other people, whether it’s one on one or in large groups. They kind of both feed off each other into this repeating cycle of fuel for my soul.
People that serve in media tend to be more introverted. Those on the music side usually are a mix of both intro and extroverted personalities It makes sense for media folk. They work behind the scenes. They’re in the back of the room, usually going unnoticed by the congregation (unless there’s feed back). You would think that musicians are all extroverted. After all, they are on a stage in front of everybody. But it surprises me how many musicians have a hard time connecting with people they’ve never met, or even speaking from stage. It doesn’t always come naturally for many of them.
In the past I have assumed that introverts strictly desire to be by themselves, which is kind of true. I have more recently however, come to understand that introverts want, and need to, spend time in community as well. And even extroverts can surprise you with how few people they actually spend time with. The point is we can’t make the assumption that introverts don’t want our time and extroverts don’t need it.
The greatest gift we have to offer as leaders is our time.
Our teams need time with us. Time spent one on one joking, encouraging, and leading them spiritually. They also need time spent in a group becoming friends, learning about each other, understanding each other. This cannot be overstressed. With the teams that I have had the pleasure of leading this has been vital to their (and my) development as believers as well as their passion for being a part of something that requires team effort. I have made an intentional effort to give my team as much of my time as I can, and I still don’t think I give as much as I should. To get real practical, here are the times that I spend with my teams:
-Before the morning rehearsal setting up and after service tearing everything down
-Being a portable church, I ask a portion of the team to get there early to help set up and also get the band to help with tear down. The after service portion is really special. Having the band to be a part of technical things helps them understand all that goes into a morning and also shows the media people that the band is willing to get their hands dirty.
-We gather than band and media teams together in the morning and I lead a short teaching time where I share either something that God is showing me or something that our church is doing that I think they should take special note of. I ask also for prayer requests and praise reports on what God is doing in their lives which gives the team a chance to hear a piece of each others hearts. Then we either pray as a group,lead by me or I’ll ask one of them to pray for everyone, or we break into groups of three or four and pray.
-Going out to lunch after service
-This is just a casual time where we all hang out after church. I don’t pay for their meals or anything, but we all really enjoy it and everybody gets excited when we do it. I usually try to schedule this once a month.
-Random lunch or coffee dates through the week
-These can be for a variety of reasons:
-Sometimes it’s just good to have some one on one time or me and a couple volunteers to get to know each other better.
-I try to make an effort to do this with newer volunteers especially so I can get to know where they’re at and what they’re passionate about.
-This can also be a great time to speak some vision or course correction into someones life. I like doing this kind of stuff in person because I feel like it gives the opportunity for some dialogue around it and removes the possibility of being misunderstood.
It’s always important to show your team that you’re accessible. I’ve seen great unity form, accountability, development, and spiritual growth all form from simply giving time. I think you’ll be amazed at the impact that your time can have on your team as a whole and as individuals.